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*poke, poke* Is this thing on? - Balinares

Aug. 18th, 2013

12:26 pm - *poke, poke* Is this thing on?

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The funny thing about long online silences is, you don't intend your last post in ages to be your last post in ages. It just happens to be a snapshot of what's going on just before you're about to enter a time of not enough time/energy/brainwidth to keep updating.

And on that count, hoo boy, my last posts about how my commute is fucking me up were spot. on. perfect.

The last year, summarized: commute, work, raise kids. (For values of 'raise' comprised mostly of flailing ineffectually while they turn out fine on their own, because you know, kids do that.)

I don't draw or paint anymore, I don't write anymore, I stopped horse-riding and martial arts, programming projects have gone to fallow. This is not a super exciting life.

At some point you just find yourself padding the gaps by blinking blearily at the Internet again and again, which the brain parses as "Oh hey, this is almost like I'm doing something!", except of course it isn't. At least I made a whole bunch of friends loosely playing asynchronous forum games on pony-themed subreddits.

With my commute and C.'s crazy doctor hours, we've been relying a lot on our nanny, the dear woman. Her availability and proximity are what helps us hold everything together. But she's not having a good year, at all. Within months, she got a divorce and then lost her dad. So... she's selling her house, and moving away.

And that's where everything kind of breaks down for us.

Basically... We're calling it quits. We've sold the house. And we're moving back down south.

After a lot of false starts because the housing market is fucked up beyond belief, we found a nice rental house 5 mins away from C.'s parents. We'll be relying on them a lot. Kind of have to.

Selling the house went mercifully quickly. The local market is dreadfully anemic, but our house is... well, was really pretty, and to be honest, we also took a heavy loss on the sale. That's life. Hopefully the buyers' mortgage will go through; we'll sign the final papers in October.

C. herself found a nice position at a smaller hospital down south, in the town where my own parents live. She'll have more night duties, but they'll be markedly quieter.

And as for me, my boss agreed to let me telecommute. The sales manager, who supervises those things, agreed as well. Aaaaand then the CEO stepped in and demanded I come in at least two days a week.

So for the time being, I will in fact be spending even more time on the train than before.

This is going to be a brand new life, though, and that matters.

Right now we're packing, packing and packing. You acquire so much stuff without realizing it. We've been throwing away a lot of old things, actually, which is strangely therapeutic.

The moving truck comes on Thursday. So, right during Eurofurence. Because of course the details of C.'s work schedule between here and down south, and the rental house's availability, had to conspire so the move could only happen this week. Seriously, at some point it just stops being funny.

I'll still be going to EF, primarily because C. said I should. (If it had been my own decision, I wouldn't have gone. But she's wise like that; I think we'll both have need of the tremendous mental energy I get from my yearly pilgrimage to EF.)

So right now I'm trying to wrap up everything before tomorrow, my last day here. Packing, relocating telephone/Internet subscriptions, more packing, everything must be done and done well so C. can just sit back and relax until the truck comes. I hope.

And here I am, wrapping up everything, and finally closing this update window so I can move on to the next task.

Given the trials ahead, I feel oddly optimistic and cheerful.

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From:avon_deer
Date:August 18th, 2013 03:15 pm (UTC)
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Good luck with the move.
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From:balinares
Date:August 18th, 2013 11:37 pm (UTC)
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Thanks!
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From:schmitt
Date:August 19th, 2013 08:10 pm (UTC)
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Ugh. Can you do the two days contiguously and swing a cheap hotel or something? :(
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From:balinares
Date:August 28th, 2013 10:39 pm (UTC)
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That's pretty much the plan. I'll crash my brother's couch. Not a very comfortable proposition, although still arguably more comfortable than anything that could pass for a 'cheap' hotel in Paris.
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From:luna_the_cat
Date:October 1st, 2013 11:47 pm (UTC)
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A. I'm glad you're still alive. (Not that I am in a position to say a bloody thing about that.)
B. Good luck with everything -- move, which you must be right in the middle of, job, family.
C. All the stuff that stops? I hear you.

I will be around. I hope you see this.
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From:balinares
Date:October 2nd, 2013 12:11 pm (UTC)
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Yay Luna! So glad to hear from you! Thank you for posting. I hope you've been well. :)
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From:luna_the_cat
Date:October 2nd, 2013 06:45 pm (UTC)
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In all honesty, the last 2-3 years have actually sucked. Badly. Sucked wet farts out of dead pigeons, sucked. I'm trying to pull myself out of a swamp right now. Figured I needed to write more, so I'm going to try to push myself to do that, at least.

I hope things go well for you, what with moving a young family and a stupid job commute; here's to improving our lives, one sideways step at a time.
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From:unciaa
Date:February 3rd, 2015 09:31 am (UTC)
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Yaaaay stress... good luck dealing with all this crap, I hope things settle down for you both once it's all over and done with.

Also, your CEO sucks. Just saying.
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From:unciaa
Date:February 3rd, 2015 09:32 am (UTC)
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Wait. How did I hit an entry this old? Oh well, I guess at least I can get an update on how it went then. c.c
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From:balinares
Date:February 3rd, 2015 06:01 pm (UTC)
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It all went... kind of as anticipated, except moreso?

EF was great, got to chill out and spend time with my wolf ♥...

And then, instead of driving home, I set the GPS to the new address, and drove to a strange house in a strange town. Been living there a year and half now, and still neither feel mine.

From there a considerable lot of nothing much happened. Thankfully, I managed to negotiate only coming onsite twice a month. This makes the employment setup draining, but livable.

But draining it is. In practice, I'm away half the week every other week. It kinda cuts into everything. Making progress in video games is hard, because I necessarily must take several days of break several times a month, and it can be hard getting back into something. Making progress in anything I can't carry along in my luggage is hard, really.

Still haven't found a new house to buy, although there have been a few false starts. The market is headed down durably, anyway, so there's no hurry.

There were false starts too regarding career opportunities. Tentative stuff abroad started looking very very good, and then suddenly didn't pan out. That was kinda a little bit difficult to deal with.

And meanwhile, C.'s hospital is slowly turning even worse than the previous one, sadly, for much the same reasons. So she's looking to join a private practice sooner or later. No idea when there will be an opening somewhere, though.

And until something changes, there we are, still stuck here in between two lives.

At least I found a nice painting class that's a three minutes walk away.
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From:luna_the_cat
Date:April 20th, 2015 08:46 pm (UTC)
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I'm just rejoining the land of LJ myself, so glad to see this update. I will assume that between February and April nothing has happened which resulted in you not being still alive.

Good luck to C. And hope you have had more luck career-wise.
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From:balinares
Date:April 21st, 2015 12:43 pm (UTC)
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Luna!! =D Good to hear from you!! (I know I'm exceeding the proper limit on exclamation marks here. It's because I'm VERY HAPPY.)

Things have gone from stagnant to kind of complicated in a very short time over the last month, but hey, I can't complain of the latter after complaining so long of the former. Among other things, I, uh, have started writing scripts for a retrogaming TV show. It takes up solid chunks of my free time but it's a little bit cool. :D

How have you been, yourself? I think of you often and I hope life is being good to you.

(Also, the most direct way to keep in touch with me these days is on Twitter, if you use that. @balinares, unsurprisingly.)
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From:luna_the_cat
Date:April 21st, 2015 04:22 pm (UTC)
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Oh, don't worry; there are at least two years' worth of exclamation points which have been accumulating, you can use a few extra. :¬D

2014-2014, not such great years. Now, much better. Job better. Life better, at least I think so, knock on wood....and, yes, stagnant to complicated I hear you. SCRIPTWRITING...! YES! YAY!

(There, I've used up some exclamation points of my own. Feel better?)

I was on Twitter for a while. I had to abandon it mostly because oh dear me, that was a timesuck bigger than I could handle. I made the mistake of finding all these interesting people to follow, and then I didn't have time to do anything else! I ended up watching other people have interesting experiences and not having many of my own because I was stuck to the internet. I don't know, I think it defeated the purpose a little bit.

I will, however, now be more in touch.

Be good, kind dragon; and if you can't be good, be careful, and if you can't be careful, consider naming it after me. :¬D

Edited at 2015-04-21 04:22 pm (UTC)
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From:balinares
Date:April 22nd, 2015 09:19 am (UTC)
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I hear you about Twitter. Turns out a direct feed from interesting people is not 100% a good thing. Maybe I should use one of those Twits-to-LJ integration tools, since they're both how I stay in touch with people. (Staying in touch with people matters, even though I'm not very good at it.)
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From:luna_the_cat
Date:April 22nd, 2015 09:21 pm (UTC)
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(Staying in touch with people matters, even though I'm not very good at it.)

QFT. Oh, yes.
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